I am not quite what some people mean when they talk about independent living. They appear in be quite passive in their expectations of living independently, talking about their rights to make choices and have access to services, without any desire to actually do anything from their independence.
For me, lazy independence is not enough anymore, we have had our honeymoon on political rights and now disabled people must get to work in achieving full inclusion. And by work, I mean any form of contribution to family, community and/or society. This is about attitude and effort, not attainment.
If you want something, and I mean really want something, there is a way to get it and it is up to you to get it, no one else, which includes knowing where to ask for help. For me, this is the cornerstone of independent living, or rather inclusive living, as people take responsibility for their actions, turning their rights into achievements.
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